Fear of discomfort will ruin your life. Discomfort isn’t intense pain, but just the feeling you get when you’re out of your comfort zone. What are the things that bring you discomfort? Most of the time they are the things that are beneficial to us and the things that help us grow. Eating healthy foods brings discomfort for some people, and so does exercising. That is why a lot of people shun these healthy habits. Having social media discipline or limiting TV time can cause discomfort.
Different people experience discomfort from different things but we all go through some discomfort. Some people find discomfort in love and I say it without judgment, it is our duty to protect our hearts but sometimes we are protecting ourselves from ghosts that do not exist. They run away from every possible relationship that seems difficult.
How we handle discomfort however differs from one person to another. Most people don’t like discomfort and they run from it. The problem is that when you run from discomfort all the time, you are restricted to a small zone of comfort, and so you miss out on most of life.
Most good things in life come through the discomfort. And facing your discomfort brings comfort. This is a discovery I made a few years back when I was trying to change my life. I wanted to change my habits and this brought about a lot of discomfort to me. I started by trying to quit procrastination. It was uncomfortable to resist that voice that always told me that I would do it another time. My mind resisted and tried to make up all kinds of rationalizations for procrastination. My mind tried to run from this discomfort of having to wake up in the middle of the night and fulfill my dreams, trying to seek distractions.
I forced myself to go through the discomfort and when I did, I realized it wasn’t as bad. My world didn’t end, nor did my mind implode. I was just uncomfortable for a bit, and then life moved on and I made progress.
Then I watched this same process happen with working on my business. I didn’t want to work on my business because it was too hard. My mind made up rationalizations, etc. I found ways to avoid doing anything. Then I went through the discomfort. It was hard but I started by taking baby steps and learned to love my progress.
I repeated this process by exercising until it became a habit. Becoming OK with discomfort was one of the single biggest discoveries of my newly changed life. Even though I have done all these, it does not mean that it’s easy. Below I have written some tips to help you become good at discomfort.
4 Tips on how to find comfort from discomfort
If you need comfort, then you have to embrace discomfort.
1. Take action
The only way to find comfort from discomfort is by taking action. You can’t go around it, under or over it, you have to go through it.
2. Do it one step at a time
Baby steps will help with easing the pain. If you start by taking huge steps, chances are it will be too painful and you will run away from the discomfort.
3. Hunt for discomfort
Instead of waiting for it to happen to you, be on the hunt for discomfort. If you do that, it won’t be as uncomfortable as it would be. Every day, do challenge yourself to do something that makes you uncomfortable, something that gives you discomfort but allows you to grow.
4. Fall in love with discomfort
Discomfort means you are operating outside your familiar zone and this is an opportunity for you to grow. Fall in love with it.
Whatever makes you uncomfortable, confront it, explore it and you will be free.
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